My personal philosophy at this stage
of my life is that to learn to always give and receive help around you. Always
in my life, I was trying to be independent and face every challenge on my own.
I was taught early on; that the only person is that can get you where you want
to be is you yourself. Taking it literally I thought that I was to never take
help from anyone and work everything on my own. After all I have to be the one to get somewhere. However what I failed to
realize even after struggling, is that help is meant for a reason, to assist
one in reaching their goal, for no one in this world can get through their life
without receiving help at least one. There are so many examples of this, coming
from my own life and so many other sources.
From just my own life, there are
countless examples when I have tried to handle my problems on my own. However
those problems were too much for me to handle, however, I could never handle
these on my own, and after failing, I had to crawl to help and recover.
My first example of this was when I first
began to struggle in my math class. Every test, I was so sure of myself and
believed that I could get through life without struggling, that I could pass
them. Except each time I took the test, I ended up struggling and never
accomplishing what I really wanted. To me it was a real struggle, however, I never
thought about coming in to receive help from a teacher whose jobs was to teach
me. Until I finally I came to get help, and then I realize, that I could
actually achieve the grade I wanted if I decided to get help. This was my first
lesson in learning how to actually get help and that I could never get through
in life unless I actually decide to go out on my own and find that help. Even
with that though I began to get help for school work, at that time, the thought
of appreciating help never crossed my mind. I wasn’t grateful for that help.
The second time I realized I needed
help was when I went to the hospital for a deflated lung. On the first day, while
I was lying on the bed, fresh after surgery, I refused pain medication. I don’t
know why I did that, most likely because I believed that I didn’t need that,
and that I could handle it. I ended up regretting that choice, because all throughout
that night I faced a whole lot of pain, far worse than just failing a test; pain
that drives you insane and before long I called the nurse for the medication.
At that point it finally crossed my mind, “Hey maybe receiving help is a good
thing, it’s not like I can handle everything in life. Why didn’t I take that
medicine earlier, would’ve made my life so much easier.” From there I finally
realized, help is what brings you back up on your feet after you fall.
From just those two experiences from
my life, I learned that help is a required thing this life. That the only way
you can get through life is with that push on the back pushing you further. It
took me so long to realize, with me almost failing a class and ending up in the
hospital before I realized assistance is there for a reason, to bring you back
to your feet after falling. Giving help goes both ways too, once you give it to
someone else, you bring someone, whose struggling up on their feet. And it’s
comfortable to know that if everyone were to do this, you could rely on someone
to help you back on your feet. The
saying in which I was taught where, “only you are the one that can get yourself
anywhere”, has changed in the way that it is now, “Although you are the one
that gets yourself anywhere, it’s impossible without help from those around you”
